This session focuses on the third elements the anger process, distorted thinking. Often we “talk ourselves” into becoming angry. We make automatic and almost “unheard” comments to ourselves, which flame the anger rising inside of us.
Paralysis of the will is a striking feature of depression, indicating the underlying hopelessness. Helplessness is the psychological state that frequently results when events are uncontrollable. An event is uncontrollable when we can’t do anything about it; when nothing we do matters. The two crucial concepts are voluntary response and response-outcome independence; these two concepts are intimately related.
Dependency affects the lives of many people. Labeled as co-dependence, it can be defined as “a specific condition that is characterized by preoccupation and extreme dependence (emotionally, socially, and sometimes physically) on a person or object. Eventually, this dependence on another person becomes a condition that affects the person in all other relationships.” Co-dependency hinders marriages, friendships and healthy family functioning. It erodes trust and the ability to have honest and open communication. It blunts a person’s feelings and impedes his/her judgment about reality.